Keeping her name a secret, Mumbai based girl said, “When I was in high school, many boys proposed me but I trusted only one who ditches me within a year. I decided not to trust anyone here after. But again I met another guy in my higher secondary class when I made my second mistake. There I decided I should be more careful. But one of my cousin sisters disclosed all these to my family members which was a true embarrassing moment for me. I could not think of trusting any one in my life but being in a society we have to experiment, whom to trust.”
Mostly if you have been through a bitter experience of relations in the past, one of life’s biggest dilemmas can be working out who to trust – from family, relationships and friendships.
Some people leak all their secrets to everyone, but others prefer to disclose in a smaller circle. But how do we decide what makes someone praiseworthy of our trust? It’s the fair question that so many people would trance of knowing the answer to.
A recent news, published in the current issue of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, reports the results of a sequence of experiments, with the conclusion that ‘guilt-proneness’ is one of the strongest predictors of trustworthiness.
In other terms, if it seems like someone will feel culpable for sharing your top secrets or letting you down, then they seem trustworthy.
The study employed a mixture of methods, including trust games and questioning, to calculate guilt-proneness alongside responsibility, trust and other personality behavior.
The research found that, in addition to a guilt-proneness, people who gave the feeling of having a large sense of responsibility were also seen as trustworthy.
So there you have it, Share your secrets with those who have sense of responsibility. And now there is no excuse for trusting the wrong people.