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Why we are attracted to only certain people, and not everyone

When it comes to be in love with, most people have an idea of what they're looking for in a partner. Good looks, aspiration, and a good sense of humor are frequent qualities that people seek out.

But there are other features you are likely unaware of that play a significant part in who you are attracted to. Past experiences, closeness, and biology all have a role in determining who catches our attention and who doesn't.

When we fall for someone, it’s tough to stop conversational about our new crush’s good looks, sense of humor, and that undeniable love sparks. But why is it that we are just naturally attracted to some people and not others?

Sure, love is unexplained, but, in some ways, attraction is not. Science actually has an explanation for why we are attracted to certain people and why we don’t give others the time of day.

We spoke to several experts to find out what it is that draws us towards certain people in terms of our biological composition. It’s worth noting that much of the research about attraction tends to focus on heterosexual relationships, but obviously that is not the limit of magnetism or love.

  • Closeness plays a role in who you are attracted to
  • People can be fascinated to those who look in good physical shape and fertile
  • Our surroundings teaches us who we should view as attractive
  • Personality traits might force who you are attracted to
  • The primary male sex hormone may be more attracted to women with more ‘feminine’ faces, which they described as meaning high eyebrows, big eyes, and a smaller jaw. But that is not the only way hormones play a role in attraction
  • Despite the fact that 80 percent of us consider in the idea that opposites attract, it might be the case that we are, instead, attracted to those similar to us